How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?
Last Updated: 25.06.2025 08:39
By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”
By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.
By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”
Why am I so triggered and depressed over a minor thing?
By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.
By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.
By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
Why do people with trauma easily recognize other people with trauma through eye contact?
By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.
By taking turns talking.